About Me- Healing, Writing, and Petting Dogs
Regulating and Rewiring One Breath At a Time
Hi, I’m Violet, and I’m currently walking the winding uphill path of CPTSD recovery. I’m obsessed with learning about the nervous system and trauma responses — largely because of how they’ve impacted my entire life.
Growing up with my mother was unpredictable — never knowing when the next emotional earthquake would knock me off my feet. One moment she was cheerful and laughing, and the next she was yelling, slamming doors, or seething with rage over a minor inconvenience. Her moods ruled the house, and no one could ever predict what version of her we’d get. My dad coped by retreating into work and denial. He let her behavior roll off him, brushing it off or making excuses, which only made me feel more isolated and helpless. There was no safety, no stability, and certainly no validation.
When I left home, I thought I was escaping the chaos, but instead, I walked right into a familiar pattern. I married someone who, in hindsight, mirrored many of my mother’s traits: manipulative, emotionally volatile, and deeply self-centered. At first, I mistook the intensity for passion, but over time, I lost myself. I lost my voice, my needs, and eventually, my individuality. Just like at home, I was constantly managing someone else’s emotions, tiptoeing around conflict, and shrinking myself.
I’ve had my fair share of struggles, but I’m also discovering what it means to feel safe. I’m now in a healthy, supportive relationship, and I spend most of my days with my two goofball dogs who remind me to stay present.
I’m learning to follow my dreams and explore new hobbies like crochet and painting. Being creative and tactile allows me to process my feelings and relax. It lets me boost my confidence and appreciate life in a simpler way.
Recovery isn’t linear, but it is possible, and I’m here to share what I’ve learned and am still learning. This blog is a space for anyone navigating CPTSD, Healing from past relationships, or loves learning about mental health tips and practices.
Thanks for reading my story!
📚 Check out my Kindle Book on CPTSD, nervous system healing, and mindfulness. A curated collection of journal prompts, affirmations, techniques, and coping tools.
✍️ Take a peak at one of my writing prompts on Mindfulness, Self Compassion, CPTSD, or Nervous System Regulation.
🧠 Follow my healing journey on Instagram: @inhaleholdrealese
Let’s grow together — one breath, one boundary, one cute dog at a time.🐸❤️
